Previously from the category On Life
The New Year is here, and whether you like it or not everyone around you seems to have a resolution that’s going to impact the world. Meanwhile, you and your inner circle are still trying to figure out what’s even worth doing.
Well, I’m here to tell you it’s okay to feel a bit scrambled at times. It happens to the best-of-the-best of all of us and whether we like it or not, it’s part of the trial and error that makes us who we are. Being scrambled is a normal feeling, but what you don’t want is to be looking back thirty years from now and realizing that you’re in the same place you started.
All that being said, if I had to pick the biggest and worst resolution to be tackled this year and in this article, the one I think could impress upon the majority of anyone who decides to read this, it would be this: Work on yourself calmly and steadily.
For this article, we’re gonna look at a few things that need to be taken into account, taken responsibility for, and truly taken care of before you decide to take another step in 2018.
Starting From Scratch
So there you sit, leaning up against a bar stool, a bed, a couch, or one of the many hungover friends you surround yourself with. It’s January the first, and you just had one hell of a night trying to celebrate the tragic end to an equally tragic year.
But do you think it seems a bit odd that you might be the only one who thinks it was a tragic year? You may be alarmed by the fact that you’re questioning all the fun you’re having, but realizing your time is being wasted is part of the start of your journey.
You may not think so now, but, later down the road, you’ll be happy that you were willing to take the thought aside for a moment and realize what it actually means. In fact, you may be the only one within your group of peers who has the fortitude to realize that it isn’t the first time you’ve considered your actions and felt regret. You may even be so inclined to truly come to terms with the fact that the beginning of your year shouldn’t have to be remedied with aspirin and all day sunshades.
So, what do you do now? You start looking for what you’re good at.
The problem, apart from the hangover, is the fact that most people seem to be wandering seamlessly through this life despite the fact that they could be making an incredible impact doing what they love. But, therein lies another problem: How do you find out what it is you want to do?
Well, if I’m the first one to tell you then here goes: You HAVE to look for it; it doesn’t find you. This means you need to be willing to try and fail, a lot.
You Try, You Fail
Trying to realize one’s potential is sometimes like trying to mine a mountain with a single man and a dull pick-ax. It seems impossible, but what brings down the mountain is the persistence shown by the man.
This could be that initial thought you have at your party that’s slowly beginning to snowball because you decided to spend some time alone to come to terms with everything. Now that you’ve accepted the bad decisions and moved on, it’s time for some action.
When it comes to realizing your own potential, it’s safe to say that implementing ten tries to nine fails ratio is important. This means for every ten things you try to experience and get better at, you’re going to fail nine times.
To give a visual representation through text (and to make you feel a bit better when you do fail) it’ll look something like this:
try, fail, try, fail, try, fail, try, fail, try, fail, try, fail, try, fail, try, fail, try, fail, try, Succeed!
Sure, it’s a long road, but the beauty of great accomplishments are the journeys that lead us there. You’re going to find that when you do finally realize the one thing you are good at, you’ll want to tear into it like an animal, and you have every right to because you’re a beast with a brain and a chip on their shoulder making up for lost time.
At the end of the day, all you can do is try. Likewise, the worst that can happen is that you fail, but, in hindsight, they won’t seem like a failure at all. As more time passes, they will start to take the shape of lessons rather than failures. So if knowledge is power, then fail more and fall in love with doing it. At the end of the day, it’s just another lesson in the bag.
In the Meantime…
Sometimes, you end up spending a lot of time trying to figure out what it is you want to do, and you may think you’re wasting larger amounts of time while getting no closer to where you want to go.
Along with giving yourself room for error, you’re going to want to change a few things about yourself as well (drinking in excess, perhaps). I can tell you now that there’s no better time to do it then when you first start trying to find what it is you’re truly passionate about.
It’s because when you first start trying to find that passion, it’s like being born all over again. You have to learn to walk, talk, eat, and sleep on your own all over again, and you will have to stay focused and exercise your drive just to do that. So, why not kill two birds at this point?
You’re learning how to waddle all over again, only this time you’re an adult who can make their own decisions. Yes, it’s true; you are now and will forever be an adult. Unless of course, you’re not, and, in that case, you shouldn’t be drinking.
Jokes aside, if I’ve learned anything from my few short years as an adult it’s this, time-management is one of the most under-utilized things when talking about a day-to-day strategy to keep yourself on your toes. This is true for both doing what you love and building yourself into the person you want to see in the mirror tomorrow.
They go hand-in-hand when you decide to start improving yourself. So start making small, incremental changes, start doing what you love daily and don’t be afraid of giving up some of the habits that aren’t helping you get ahead.
A Few Things to Keep in Mind
• Don’t let others get in the way of your happiness.
We all want to do better, but misery loves company. So, if you start feeling like you have a few people in your life that aren’t willing to put down the bottle, just tell them honestly. Don’t forget why you’re doing it, to begin with, and remember that you only need your own approval. Also, unless it’s constructive for you, everyone ‘criticism’ is just over-glorified bullshit. You don’t have to listen to that, so don’t.
• Don’t be afraid to fail, and if you’re fearful, bear through it with bravery.
If you’re afraid to fail, then your journey is going to be a rough one. You can walk away with your tail tucked, but if you have enough courage to brave through the more difficult paths and stay on a steady pace, willing to welcome failure as a lesson rather than a loss, you’re well equipped and ready for the grind.
• Fortify yourself as you see fit.
Only you know what’s best for you. Don’t stay envious of Jane because she’s a better teacher when you’re meant to be a principal. Likewise, don’t stay envious over John the chief editor when you’re supposed to be the next best-selling author.
Albert Einstein once said, “If you judge a fish on its ability to climb a tree, it’ll go through its entire life believing that it’s stupid.”
You do you, simple as that.
• Be honest with yourself
There are worldly guidelines and standings that are policed and governed. We follow them on a day-to-day basis and tend to stay pretty straight-forward, but what are your personal guidelines? You know, an ethos, a creed, an upstanding honor that you want to withhold yourself to because you know you have enough discipline to do so.
Make them good, and remember that although no one will celebrate with as much as you when you withhold them, no one will punish you if they are broken. Decide what’s worth withholding and stick do it.
At the end of this life, no one wants to die with regret. Equally, understanding that you’ve read to the end of this post for a reason, you probably don’t want to be the same by the end of this ‘new’ year. So, knowing it takes most people two weeks to forget the year is new and blow off their well-planned resolutions, what are you gonna do at the end of these first two weeks with the one you had to dig this far for? The choice is yours.